Compliments, Favors, and Public Lap Dances = Happy Relationships

A big part of a successful relationship is about mutual happiness. In other news, cheeseburgers are fattening, the sky is blue, and T-Pain likes to use the Autotuner. But seriously…although it’s cliche, finding mutual happiness in your relationship is key.  It’s easy to point out all the pet peeves and “I Hates“…

“I hate it when you smoke in the house,”

“I hate it when you leave the milk out of the fridge,”

“I hate it when you forget to feed The Gimp.”

But instead, take a different approach. Begin to take notice and focus on the little things that make you, and your significant other smile.

“I love it when you watch stupid movies with me,”

“I love it when you have something special prepared for dinner,”

“I love it when you feed The Gimp when it’s not even your turn.” (Yes, we did watch Pulp Fiction recently, how did you know?)

A spontaneous kiss, with a bit of passion, a nonsexual compliment, even a silly joke made at the right time, all can make a good situation even better, or lighten the mood when it desperately needs it. We’ve seen the tension thick enough to be cut with a samurai sword (by Bruce Willis) dissipate at something small, like a silly face, a hug, or just volunteering to do a little chore.

These vary from person to person of course. What is one woman’s charming action (holding a door, opening the dried up nail polish container, or singing a love song in front of an entire bar) can be another’s awkward situation or insult. Likewise, what one guy might consider cute (a nibble on the ear, a surprise lunch delivery, or a public lapdance) another might consider an annoyance. Being open about these things with one another can not only create new avenues for conversation, but can also lead to a happier “us.”

“What do you think looks good?” “What would you like to try?” “How willing are you to do a John Travolta impression during foreplay?”

Details, people, details.