Sexual Problems
How to last longer? Tips, tricks, techniques?
Ok, first let me say, I am by no means what they would call a premature ejaculator. But I do sometimes feel like my gun goes squirt a bit earlier than I'd like to pull the trigger, if ya know what I mean. I doubt I'm alone on this one. I'm sure there's plenty of guys out there who wish they knew how to last longer. So I was wondering what other guys do to help them last longer in bed? any techniques, tips, tricks?
treat_pe109 days ago
Answer 1 of 17
Breathing Exercise To Cure Premature Ejaculation
Try breathing in for 5 seconds, holding for 5 seconds and then exhaling for 5 seconds. This is known as triangular breathing.
Many men who use this technique during sex finds that it helps them to last longer. Quite how or why this works is not fully understood. It could simply be a distraction of the mind or there could be some other explanation for it.
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Randy112085293 days ago
Answer 2 of 17
How to last longer in bed.
My first tip would be more foreplay. You can play with your girlfriend while you're inside of her. Don't understand, check this out!
My boyfriend does this amazing thing where he lays beside me and touches me to get me really wet. When I'm getting close to orgasming for the first time (yes, he makes me cum more than once), he puts himself inside of me, staying on my side. From this angle he can touch me and be inside of me at the same time, which makes me just go crazy. This benefits him as well, as once I've cum the first time I'm extra lubed up, and then we can focus on him.
My last tips would be buy certain condoms. I would try these http://www.blissfulgoodies.com/Durex-performax-climax-control---box-of-12/sku-CNVELD-7607-25?a=artificial_vagina
Good Luck!
petercullipover a year ago
Answer 3 of 17
Distract your mind/focus
lower your focus on the feeling and more on the activity itself for example, therefore effectively increasing the time it needs to reach climax.
matt_howlett98over a year ago
Answer 4 of 17
how to last longer
If your in bed with your partner you need to just think about how great she will feel
prolongejaculationover a year ago
Answer 5 of 17
Perfect Breathing Is The Key
Breathe slowly and in a regular fashion. Don't take random breaths only when you need them.
Breathe deeply, focussing on your lower chest and belly. Expanding your belly as you breathe helps you take in more air, which relaxes you and keeps you calm.
NEVER hold your breathe. Just don't do it. It tenses you up and puts you on edge, making you much more likely to come too soon.
By breathing deeply and regularly in the way described above, you'll be able to reduce anxiety and increase your ability to always be totally aware of the sensations you're feeling in and around your penis. The natural result? A longer, more pleasurable sexual experience for you and your partner.
S_Jerusalemover a year ago
Answer 6 of 17
Kegel exercises. Do sets of contractions...
Kegel exercises. Do sets of contractions with holds on your PC muscles (the ones you use to stop the flow of urine when you pee). This will help you gain a better awareness of your physical body and achieve a greater mental control over it.
The other thing, as has been mentioned, is masturbation training. Make sure that the majority of your masturbation sessions are of a similar length to how long you would like to have sex for. This will make you body more accustomed to that length of sexual activity.
30FLondonover a year ago
Answer 8 of 17
Firstly when not naked, mention to the g...
Firstly when not naked, mention to the girl how much she turns you on, too much sometimes, make sure it's something you can both talk about.
Usually this happens with me if a) the bloke hasn't had sex in a while b) he's worried this will happen.
I suggest:
- Ask for a quickie, you'd be surprised when you are supposed to finish quickly you don't.
- If he says he's going to come early on, I say go for it, fuck me as hard as he can, if it's going to be quick it might as well still be enjoyable! Also I reassure him how good the hard fuck was, and ask when we can go again.
- Go really slowly, almost at a tantric speed, letting the penis fully out before penetrating again, all the while stroking her clitoris and kissing her neck and breasts, should you feel you might ejaculate, go even slower.
- Build up your tolerances, always use condoms - even thicker ones, don't refrain from ANY opportunity to masturbate.
TheRealDealover a year ago
Answer 9 of 17
I've never heard of any problems with th...
I've never heard of any problems with the products/spermicides/sensation reducers. I would hope if you do use them you would be able to tell if you were having sex too long; therefore, you shouldn't get "raw" if you realize the situation and I don't know why one would use something to reduce sensation if your having anal sex so thats personal preference I guess. We aren't supposed to be having anal sex anyhow so blocking your body's feeling of pain is redundent to the situation. Its obviously gonna hurt no matter how you do it unless yo use a good lubricant which is the only things I have ever heard of when having anal sex. So, I don't think using them is bad for anyone who uses them appropriately. Its not like anyone would use something to numb the penis so they can beat the hell out of it, lol. If your having sex like you normally do and just applying it to last longer then you shouldn't be in any posiiton of hurting your lil guy and not knowing it. Plus, when I have used them it never has made me go completely numb. You still feel sensation or else you would never get off. Its just a product that decreases sensation so you don't get labeled a one-minute man and can actual please your sweetheart! =)
COLTORover a year ago
Answer 10 of 17
So nonoxynol-9, the active ingredient in...
So nonoxynol-9, the active ingredient in spermicide, is known to cause tiny abrasions in the vaginal and anal walls. Not only does that not sound like so much fun, but in increases the chance of transmitting sexually transmitted infections. Thanks, FDA! The most effective forms of birth control are hormonal (the pill, NuvaRing, etc...) and the condom, which comes in all sorts of stimulating shapes (such as the One PleasurePlus), colors, flavors (only for oral sex), and textures (ribbed, studded, etc...) It also has the plus that it will protect you from and from transmitting a whole bunch of different STDs. There's my safe sex...thing.
As for lasting longer. Use a condom. Think about using ones that don't have extra pleasure things for you. The least exciting condom I've tried is the One Glowing Pleasures. It glows in the dark...whatever... but it is pretty thick and doesn't feel too great. A close second is the regular LifeSyles ones. They aren't that impressive from the dude side either. Though previously mentioned, slowing down, changing positions, and taking a break to go down on her are good stand-bys.
Something I definitely do NOT recommend is using a "climax control" condom. It's a condom with a chemical inside that sort of numbs your penis and is supposed to keep you from finishing too quickly. Never use any topical (cream or thing that goes on your skin) chemical to enhance or reduce your sexual response. (girls too) The problem with these chemicals is that they keep you from having a proper pain response. Imagine using a "climax control" condom and finding out the next day that you rubbed your penis raw in some places. Not cool. The same for the anal lubricants that are supposed to make it more comfortable by reducing sensation. The reason you have the pain response is because your body is telling you that it doesn't want to wear a colostomy bag for the rest of it's life. The reason I mention creams that "enhance" sexual response is because I have seen creams designed to go on the clitoris where the active ingredient (lucky if it's listed) was menthol. What?! Sure it's a little tingly at first, but that's just gonna numb your lady bits. That's why menthol is in cough drops and throat sprays, cause it numbs the feeling.
Sorry for all the extra information, just stuff I want people to know.
DateDailyover a year ago
Answer 11 of 17
Without being obvious, you can always ac...
Without being obvious, you can always act like a tease.
Pull out when you feel the climax coming on and kiss her, go down on her, or suck her breasts. Buy yourself some time to gain some penis control back.
Once you have her begging you get back inside, go in and move at different tempos. I must warn you though, her reaction will likely turn your squirt into a full on waterfall. ;-)
TheRealDealover a year ago
Answer 12 of 17
Oh and DO NOT do the squeeze trick. I ha...
Oh and DO NOT do the squeeze trick. I have never tried it and I will never try it. I have heard and read many times over that it is not healthy to do and can be dangerous for guys. It can lead to impotency and/or infections due to the sperm almost getting clogged in your (I think its your urethra, not sure) shaft. Most people don't realize but most of the sperm is contained in the pre-ejaculatory fluids and can just as likely get a girl pregnant than the grand finale, haha. If you and your partner are stallions in the bed, go ahead and get off before you have sex, like earlier int he day or have sex until you get off and then go again. This way you will last longer, if you can still get it up (I have never had a problem with getting it up again so I dunno everyone else's situation) then when you go again you don't have to worry about getting off too quickly or the amount of sperm being highly concentrated, leading to accidents, whoops, lol. BUT the squeeze technique does allegedly work but is in no way a healthy practice for your lil guy or body or future chances at having children.
TheRealDealover a year ago
Answer 13 of 17
I've actually done a lot of research on ...
I've actually done a lot of research on this topic and I've taken several 3 credit college courses involving sex/anatomy/stimulation. First of all I don't know who in their right mind enjoys having sex any longer than 30-40 minutes but here are people out there. I think a good amount of time that is enjoyable and long enough to please both sides is approximately 25-30 minutes. Anyhow, try using spermicide but make sure you use it after you have gone down on the girl or else if you forget your mouth will go numb like your at the dentist, haha, Trust me, it happened when I was in high school and not very pleasent. You definately have to communicate with your partner before using anything because thye might not like it or it may decrese their enjoyment and thats not your goal. If they don't like the spermicide or it makes them even harder to please then use a spermicide condom and/or apply it before you go at it for a while and then wash off excess after it absorbs into your skin. It last for a decent amount of time. I have never had a girl tell me she was bothered by the spermicide though; however, many girls are shy about this because they are usually less selfish than the guy even though we try and please them. So if she is shy or she is just shy in the bedroom then you have to ask her "yes" and "no" questions because people are mostly shy about the elaboration part. Once you get the communicating down, find out what position makes her get off quicker because you already probably know how long it can take you to get off. This way you can go for a certain amount of time and when you get to a point where you think your going to get off, switch to the position that hits her "spot" the best. You'll know when you find it and she should tell you what she likes the best as well. The switching of positions will also give you time to "cool off" so you don't cum quickly. The more you practice switching positions before you cum, the more your natural sensations will become controlled both mentally and physically. It will desensitize your "lil guy" (thats what I call a penis) after you do this on a frequent basis. Make sure you tell her why you do what your doing so neither of you are uncomfortable or confused about the situation. Decreasing ones anxiety will also make you go longer and especially help her because i've found the girl tends to be anxious about it being over (you getting off if they like you enough) or not into it if she's used to not getting off; therefore, she won't get off. When having sex missionary place a comfortable pillow under her ass (not under her back), try using a square couch pillow directly under the area where her legs connect to her cheeks. This will enable her lower torso to be at somewhat of an angle upwards, with her back arched slightly. The reason for doing this is so that her clitoris is now exposed more to your lil guy an it will make more contact; therefore, she will have more sensation leading to an orgasm if done correctly. Poeple tend to think that those sex pillows that are sold are for people that are nympho's or porn stars but there reeally is some science to it and they are made for those positions where a guy can hit the G spot more efficiently, also making the girl/girl remain comfortable while enjoying each others bodies. It will increase the chance she climax's significantly. Don't ever make each time you have sex the same as the last. You don't ever want your GF to know what to expect. This also increase the chance of orgasm.
When you talk about sex talk about what you want and what to expect in certain situations. I usually don't flat out say "hey I just wanna get off cause i'm horny" or "i just wanna get off real quick and then watch tv" LOL. I always tell my girlfriends or girls I date that I think there are 3 different types of sex. Love making, sex, and F@*#ing, lol. (these are my opinions and thought process in general and as short and to the point as I can say them) Love making is gentle, thorough, emotional and involves so many other factors in regards to the senses. Sex is the process itself and what most people do when they are in a relationship and this doesn't really involve too many sensual actions. Now, F#@*ing is just going at it....i usually like a little rough play that is already talked about and acceptable because it increases the dopamine levels in ones brain increases adrenaline and just great, but it isn't very romantic (depending on what you like).....if you explain the different types or styles you enjoy to your girl it makes things better for the both of you because sometimes you may not want to "make love" you may just wanna "get off" cause your horny or something. Others you may just want to please her and if you can get off in the mean time then so be it, lol. So if you tell your partner what you want beforehand they know what you want and what to expect in regards to the general idea of what your going to do together in bed. I don't mean they know what to expect with positions or where your going to pleasure them or how your going to do it, thats the part they should be guessing so it makes it remain exciting as aforementioned.
I hope that makes sense about the guessing game part and not knowing or knowing what to expect. If you want me to elaborate more I will but this is kinda my general synopsis of what I think and what I know from experience. (I know some of you may disagree and others agree) The most important thing I said is the communication part because everyone is different. I would love to hear other peoples opinions as well or what they think about what I have said.
Now going off the main topic:
Many relationships end because of whats lacking in the bedroom and I don't mean its because of that, I mean that if two people don't enjoy having sex together then it starts to dwindle down. Eventually they realize they haven't been having sex at all. This usually happens in marriage or if two people get involved for the wrong reasons. What happens is they never learned how to communicate they're sexual needs to each other so one or the other seeks that missing caveat elsewhere. Because they aren't getting what they need sexually, they loose their desire to be intimate or are intimate for appearance purposes. This leads to frustration and arguments usually ensue or have always been there due to the lack of communication the couple has. It then becomes a slippery slope down the road to divorce or break-up all because they never learned how to communicate in the bedroom. Haha Of course this is factual with many cases but not factual for everyone and I am not implying that all divorces or breakups stem from this problem. It just a theory I have and one that I've had knowledge of first hand with people I know or have talked to whereas I formulated a stem chart in my own mind of how things could have broken down. I'm sorry for rambling on about this, since I kinda went off topic but its not all for nothing if someone considers this or takes what I've said to restore their sex life and/or marriage.
Let me know how it works out for you if what I said works out for you or it helps any relationships you get into/are in.
There's always some madness in love and always some reason in madness.
sexpertover a year ago
Answer 14 of 17
Now, I am a woman, so I'm just saying wh...
Now, I am a woman, so I'm just saying what other guys have told me. there are masturbatory techniques that are called "edging" where you masturbate till you're about to cum, then slow down, and try to stay on that edge for as long as you can. This helps your body get used to being on the edge and not cumming. It also helps you find our own limits and realize when too much stimulation is too much.
If you are in the middle of sex, try stopping and switching gears. Changing position, switching to oral sex with your partner, or manual stimulation helps give you a break and continues the pleasure without losing the fun. Even if you cum a little early, it doesn't mean that you have to stop pleasuring your partner.
You can also wear a condom, as for some guys, that allows them to last longer. Also, if you wear a condom, and cum a little early, most guys are still comfortable going down on their partner or manually stimulating them after sex. Plus, condoms just rock.
Hope that gives you some ideas!
oohlookasquirrelover a year ago
Answer 15 of 17
Have you heard of the "squeeze trick"? ...
Have you heard of the "squeeze trick"? When you feel like you're about to lose it, squeeze the end of your penis (or have your partner do it), at the point where the head joins the shaft, and keep squeezing until you feel like the moment has passed. Then wait 30 seconds and go back at it. I don't have a penis myself, but my boyfriend has tried it and says it works fine.
My boyfriend actually lasts a whole lot longer when I'm on top, facing him. When I have full control, I can just sit on top of him and rub myself against him without lots of "in and out." He can last a really long time this way while I still get to enjoy myself. You might find that just slowing down the sex could make your partner happier AND help you last longer.
I've always thought it would be really hot for a guy to get on top of me and put himself all the way inside and pin me down, or pull out while we're fucking and pin me down, and then tell me to touch myself and make me beg for him to fuck me again. Or you could pull out in order to do something to your partner that you couldn't do while you were inside her, like eat her out for a bit or get your mouth on her breasts at a different angle. Not all girls are going to like the same things, but those are a couple ways to sneak a break and keep things sexy (because just asking to take a break without keeping the sexy time going could kill the mood).
It might be worth experimenting to find out which positions are the "quickest" for you and which ones take a little longer. If you're not using a condom, it couldn't hurt to use one.
I was once with a guy who had the premature ejaculation so badly that before sex, I would get him off with a blow job and then have him eat me out until his erection came back. He would last a lot longer the second time. If you want to last longer in the evening, you could masturbate in the afternoon.
oh, one other thing! Practice when you're alone. Make masturbation an opportunity to see how long you can make yourself last. Push yourself to the edge and then back off again. If you're one of those guys who likes to get off quickly, you could be training yourself to do the same thing with a partner.
TheDudeover a year ago
Answer 16 of 17
Right when you feel it coming on, slow d...
Right when you feel it coming on, slow down, even come to a complete stop if you have to. Whatever it takes to keep yourself from finishing. Then take minute or two to focus on other things, mainly kissing her. Once your batteries have been re-charged, then go back at it. Repeat this everytime you feel it coming on and you'll be able to last longer. This exercise will also really help build up your stamina.
Studley Do Rightover a year ago
Answer 17 of 17
You might have already tried this becaus...
You might have already tried this because it's probably one of the more common suggestions but how about changing positions? Whenever I feel like I'm getting "close to the edge", I pull out and switch positions. I'll also take my time switching so that the adrenaline and excitement wears off a little (otherwise something as simple as sticking my "gun" back in, can be enough to set the fireworks off).
Also try a position that puts you in control. That way if you need to slow down and maneuver yourself in a way that will keep you lasting, you have the power to do so. Stationary is the the best for this. Then you can switch back to something else when your ready to "let it go".
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